Long ago, I decided that my creative life is something that matters enormously to me. It gives my life passion, purpose, meaning, joy, happiness, fulfillment, and a great deal of satisfaction. And there is great magic to be found in those peak creative moments of being “in the flow”, those moments when everything seems to beautifully fall into place.
But there is also great magic to be found in my everyday life as well – spending endless hours talking with my oh so grown-up daughter about life, love, and art, cooking dinner with my husband, having 3 hour dinners in the summer with my husband of 46 years on our tiny patio – candles and wine included, hanging out and getting goofy with my 4 grandkids, holidays, long lunches with special friends.
I seem to be always working on “balancing my everyday life with my creative life” so that I can find more time for my painting. But, if I haven’t learned anything else in all these years of chasing after that goal, I’ve learned that we can’t “find more time” because it doesn’t exist. Maybe a better idea is to decide that both my everyday life and my creative life matter enormously to me. And rather than drawing a line in the sand between them, a better idea would be to pay attention to the magic and the dragons that are part and parcel to both and slay the dragons that restrict, impinge and generally prevent me from getting on with the magic.
That immediately leads to the question: How do I decide what to do when “opposite” things that matter to me compete for my time and attention?
Here is an answer I found in Eric Maisel’s brand new book, “Rethinking Depression”:
“You weigh your actions against a vision you have of the person you would like to be, the person it would make you proudest to be; you take action; you learn from your experience to what extent you guessed right; and you make use of what you’ve learned as you make your next decision. We can give this a shorthand name: the principle of personal pride. You use the principle of personal pride to make your meaning. This may be the beautiful, imperfect, harrowing way – the way of making meaning.”
I am excited to announce that Eric Maisel, Creativity Coach, Psychotherapist, and author of over 40 books, will be stopping by my blog on Monday, April 2 on his month-long blog tour to promote his new book, Rethinking Depression. I hope you’ll visit my blog on April 2 for a sneak peek into his new book and to hear more from Eric about how the ideas he presents in the book can be applied to the artist’s journey and living the creative life.